I do believe speaking with the gf is an error.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:42 am july

We agree to you… i dunno. Its difficult. I recently know personally i couldnt just let the lady glare at me personally for no reason… like, sorry woman, be angry at him. We have done absolutely nothing to you. But thats simply anyone I will be.

Like i said, i wouldnt walk out my solution to attempt to speak to her, but she will turn her focus from the LW being an issue to the guy being the issue, which is what is going on if she sets the record straight with the girlfriend, hopefully.

Katie 17, 2012, 9:50 am july

As well as, just just exactly what would you want to bet that he’s feeding their brand new gf the entire “crazy ex” routine to spell out why they talk all of the time? And was operating into one another actually just a coincidence?

Nadine 17, 2012, 9:52 am july

I’m able to realise why you’d believe means, it isnt nice never to be liked, but I browse the page to be in regards to the LW relationship with ex-BF, perhaps maybe not the ex-BF relationship that is current. Thats simply a complicator. The LW can just only get a grip on her very own actions, and ignore the ex-BF calling and annoying that is being. New GF to his relationship is none of her company, and honestly, the 2 girls don’t need to be buddies at all. It might you need to be yet another connect to the man when it comes to LW, that is attempting to cut psychological ties.

Katie July 17, 2012, 9:54 am

Thats a point that is good sure!

Nadine July 17, 2012, 10:01 am

Oh and god, we hate the crazy ex routine – I accustomed be buddies with this specific selection of dudes whom accustomed have such lady-issues, and all sorts of the girls they dated would get crazy i’d get really surprised, cos they seemed so normal to me on them after a couple of weeks and? Then it had been realised by me ended up beingn’t the girls, its the inventors. As well as the girls were all people that are just normal, you realize, wished to determine if that they had a boyfriend or not…….

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:04 am

Yea. Its love, as soon as that takes place enough times- what’s the typical denominator? YOU WILL BE!!

I do feel detrimental to this GF that is new. She deserves to own a guy’s attention that is full. And she deserves some guy who isnt hung through to their ex, calling her and telling her he nevertheless longs for her and material. Thats messed up! And she most likely hates the LW as the man is telling her a couple of crap about her. Its just all incorrect. The whole thing.

Nadine 17, 2012, 10:09 am july

Personally I think bad she needs to look out for herself for her too, but. Its difficult being the girlfriend that is first a long relationship, but thats really why a lot of people go into these with their eyes available. Oh and the man has to get rid of dropping “But We have a girlllllllfriend! ” into conversation. We keep imagining him carrying it out the method the crossdresser does it in minimal Britain, perhaps you have seen that? “Oh, but I’m a layyyyydeee! ”

Bagge72 July 17, 2012, 10:25 am

Yeah that “but I have girlfriend” line is such crap, the LW understands he features a GF, he’s simply searching for a effect each time he claims it. He wishes the LW become like “well I don’t care I will still blow you” or “Dump that skank, and come back to me” if you have a GF,

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:27 am

Yea, its like whenever i was in senior school and me personally and my boyfriend would split up almost every other week, in which he would “accidently” we would fight and get back together text me or something just so.

Lets_be_honest July 17, 2012, 2:45 pm

@katie, hahaha “just so we would fight and obtain straight straight right back together”

Kerrycontrary 17, 2012, 10:05 am july

I’ve said right right right here a great deal, if the man whips out of the word “crazy” I operate one other means. I understand therefore men that are many utilize that word to hide for his or her dickish behavior.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:56 am

We don’t understand why individuals would phone some body crazy within the beginning. I simply state we didn’t see eye to eye long-term and leave it at that. The very fact on it, makes me think you may be the one that likes to stir the muck that you put a “crazy” label.

Will.i.am July 17, 2012, 11:57 am

Additionally, if you’re happy to phone some body crazy, wouldn’t which means that you will be kinda crazy also?

Rilooyah July 17, 2012, 4:44 pm

Therefore real! As soon as the “crazy” comes down, Im running one other method. I believe it absolutely was stated above- once you attract the crazy, the typical denominator is constantly YOU, friend.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:21 am july

To be honest, that it’s partially the LW’s fault, she understands that he’s in this relationship, and she’s knows that when this happened to her she most likely will be upset about this too, yet somehow she continues to respond to this dudes calls and even though he keeps stating that he could be dreaming about her, and all of that bull shit.

Lets_be_honest 17, 2012, 10:26 am july

Yep! We completely agree. LW, simply stop responding to. Don’t talk for this woman because your simply planning to cause drama. You need to just understand he’s maybe maybe not your boyfriend and also that you know he has a girlfriend is making you a bad guy in this too though you still like his attention, the fact.

Katie July 17, 2012, 10:35 am

That is a great point, you dudes. I didnt consider it like this.

So LW, them happyness, leave them alone!! Like eljay (i love you, eljay) said, someone has to be the adult in this situation if you really do respect their relationship and wish. If he could be maybe not prepared to be, you should do it.

Painted_lady 17, 2012 , 2:17 pm july

Amen bestie – we accept you about talking to your gf. That knows just what this guy has stated concerning the LW to justify their chatting so frequently, but even though the relationship is none of these company, the fact the LW as well as the brand new gf have actually met now i believe permits the LW some leeway. If I experienced held it’s place in a predicament where a buddy brought somebody around that I’d learned about and wished to be friends with (I’m likely to assume that the LW desires that? ) and it also went horribly, i may touch base and get, hey, I’m so sorry that went defectively. She does not fundamentally need to state, “Hey, so that your boyfriend was saying that is___ for me and he’s the only calling, in which he said you had been ok with this specific, ” just “Hey, I’m therefore sorry that went defectively, I became beneath the impression you had been fine with your being buddies, but i simply understood I’m maybe maybe not ok with your being friends either, therefore it’s not an issue anymore. ”

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:37 am

I’dn’t speak to the gf about it. If We were dating some body for just two months the very last thing i might desire is the ex of three years reaching away to me personally. And simply to inform you which you respect her relationship? I might think you had been bullshitting me personally and head that is playing. Simply just just Take Wendy’s advice and inform your ex you don’t would you like to hear from him for a time, then keep them alone. Actually they probably won’t workout because you are nevertheless when you look at the photo (which does not do great things for a brand new relationship), but allow them work that out on their own.

Kerrycontrary July 17, 2012, 9:39 am

Oh in addition, if we had been this new gf and my bf and I also went into their ex at a club i might additionally need that individuals leave instantly. It is so uncomfortable. Everybody else pretends they can be “mature” and stay buddies with exes and stay completely okay if your SO’s ex turns up, but why? You don’t have actually become okay with being around your boyfriends ex-girlfriend of three years.

Bagge72 17, 2012, 10:28 am july